Sunday, March 24, 2013

Writing Your Thank-You Cards

One of my biggest priorities after the wedding was to make sure I sent out my thank-you cards as soon as possible, NOT six months to a year later.

No such thing as you have up to a year to write thank-you notes.  The thing is that people have up to a year to send you a gift, and you need to acknowledge it in writing ASAP once you get it.

It's definitely not something you can push aside for too long, and the longer you wait, the more awkward it'll be to write them.

Ideally the groom should help out writing his share of thank-you notes but in my situation, I felt that people would be offended by Dave's penmanship so I had to write every. single. one.

It was a lot of work writing them.  It took up my evenings for the first month and a half of marriage.

Now as I approach our first year anniversary,  I don't have to worry, have guilty feelings, and come up with excuses about my rude behavior in not writing my thank-you notes.

A lot girls complain about writing them.

Think of it this way, if someone took the time to write you a check, you can make time to write a thank-you card.

Also if you had the nerve to mention your registry on your invitation, you should write a thank-you note for the gifts that you were upfront about in expecting when inviting someone to your wedding.
(I think registry info on invites are impolite, and always will be, no matter how discreet you make it on your invitation)

Reasons for writing a thank-you card soon after your wedding:

1. Shows your graciousness toward the generosity of the giver.
2. Lets giver be assured that their gift was received.  You don't want them to go to your mother-in-law and say "Hey I gave so and so $500, but never received a thank-you card; I don't even know if they even received my gift!"

Here are some rules:

  • You must write a thank-you note for every present you received and without delay

  • Thank-you notes must be handwritten.  If people can write you a check, you can certainly write a thank-you letter.

  • Sending only a picture of you and your new spouse kissing and holding a thank-you sign does not count as a thank-you note.  

  • You don't need cards that say "Thank You" on the front.  What matters is the content of what you wrote to the giver.  Blank stationary cards are easier and less expensive to order. 

  • No need to send postcards.  The cost-difference of producing them and sending them out isn't much different than buying blank cards and mailing with the first-class stamp.  

  • Don't begin your thank-you note with the phrase "Thank you for the...."  It sounds trite.

  • With cash/gift cards, don't write "Thank you for the $_____ you gave us"  That also sounds trite.  Say something to the extent of "Thank you for the very kind/thoughtful gift.  For larger sums of money, say something like "Thank you for the very kind and extremely generous gift"  Don't mention the amount.  Also say something of what you bought or planning to buy with the money you received.  "It was just enough for us to buy a silverware set that we've been wanting"  

  • Don't write something that everyone else writes in their thank-you card for their cash gift "We're going to save the money for a house."  Are you really?

  • Send a thank you card before cashing your checks.  You will earn tool status if you cash your checks but fail to acknowledge the giver.  Also write down the addresses from the checks before cashing so you know where to send the thank-you note. 

  • There is nothing lamer than getting a Christmas card that says "Merry Christmas!! and btw...thanks for the gift you gave us last spring" Hmmm...what took you so long to say thanks?  The sooner, the better! 

  • Don't write a thank-you note for a present you didn't receive. 

All that being said, I managed to send all of them out within a month and a half of the wedding.  A few weeks after that, my mother-in-law sent me a text saying:

"I want to let you know that one of my friends told me she received your thank-you card and said it was one of the nicest thank-you cards that she has received in a long time.  Thank you for being so diligent in sending them out!"


Thursday, March 7, 2013

Mummy Exhibit

Dave and I went to see a highly anticipated exhibit of mummies, animal and human in downtown SLC with our friends.

If you look close, this mummy has his/her eyelashes intact!

I was a bit weirded out at first but was amazed to see at how well-preserved the mummies were.  But it made me think about what would I like for my body after death.  I looked at some stuff on the internet about it.

I discovered online that for the price tag of $67,000 you can be mummified too by the Summum group also here in Salt Lake City.

View webpage HERE

As for my preferences, I would like to have my body/organs donated to those that need it, cremate the remainder of what's left, and use the ashes to make a lab-created diamond.  A diamond is forever and I think it's a nice reminder of a person, whose memory you want to last forever. 

I asked Dave "If I go first, would you make me into a diamond??"  :-D

Whatever your preference, I think it's important to go with the wishes of the deceased of their burial plans, because that can provide the closure you need when they pass on.  

Wednesday, March 6, 2013

Nesting Tables

I caught my eye on this on my recent visit to Home Goods here.

These are called "nesting tables"  they are perfect for your small home/room.  You need all the surface space you can get.   And they come in so many styles, sizes, and materials.

I love the antique bronze and beveled mirrors of this nesting table set.  I should have bought it but I didn't because at the time I couldn't think of where to place it.  I hope they still have it on sale.

I could see it in our bathroom.  The bathroom is clean and sparkly but it lacks personality and I think it would be fun focal point instead of our toilet plunger.  I also want to hang a picture frame too.

I think it would be perfect next to our armchair in our bedroom, that's where I've seen most nesting tables placed.

Some inspirational thought to end the post.

Monday, March 4, 2013

Pretty store finds and a SECRET revealed!!

Hi all!

I wish I could blog and decorate full-time.  One day.

I visit a lot of stores.  Sometimes several times during the week or my entire Saturday.  I'll blog about one of my favorite furniture stores that I think it's worth checking out.

DownEast Furniture Outlet
I went and visited two locations, one off of 80th South and 1300 E, and another on 12300 S and 700 E
This is a great place!  Still a bit pricey, BUT competitive.

Love the turquoise cabinet.

They have lots of nice couches/sets.  I didn't take pictures of all of them.  I think my MIL should get something like this if she's in the market for them.

DownEast has some of the nicest headboards around but they don't have any good ones in a king-size!   Anything smaller than a king-size is too small for me!

What is it with people wanting to sleep in a bed smaller than a king? :-)  

This is the going rate for most garden stools in this particular style. but I'm still trying to see which store sells it for less, only because I read a blog where someone got a garden stool for $10.  They come in a variety of colors and perfect for an end table for a living room.

 I took this picture a while back. This says SOLD but I went to this same location on Saturday and it's still there.  This is a wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am statement coffee table.  It's supposed to come with a glass top.

Modern looking armchair.

And now for a revealed secret at DownEast!

If you look at the price tag and the barcode says "800...." it's from them.  DownEast has its own list of vendors that they can order an item for you.

DownEast also gets furniture from other big name stores but they are not allowed to say from whom.  Those items have their barcode list at "100...."

Does this look familiar to anyone??

I do!

This is from 


Parsons tower white lacquer

Check out West Elm HERE for proof! 

At WestElm it's $550

But at DownEast, it's $330!!

Here's another item from West Elm at DownEast at a discount

This can be yours for $180 instead of $300 HERE

Imagine that!  Anyhow, I think a lot of people don't know because West Elm recently opened a few months ago in Salt Lake.  The furniture is basically in near perfect condition.

For the price of ONE new West Elm bookcase...

you can easily buy a WestElm bookcase AND a coffee table at DownEast.

You'll have to go to both DownEast locations.  They aren't together at the same store. 

Somebody please buy them!